Imagine what your life would look like if you didn’t compulsively doom scroll whenever you got the chance:

Every chance you get, you grab your phone to “mindlessly” scroll while attempting to ignore the thoughts that have already started racing around your head.

That familiar sense of guilt starts looming in your chest as you think about your ever-growing list of things you need to do.

You give yourself a pep talk, that sounds closer to a drill sergeant: “Okay, put the phone down, get up, we were lazy yesterday, but today we get this shit done! Come on, get up!! NOW!!” You wonder, “Haven’t I rested enough??”

Guilt eventually pushes you up. You spend some time flitting between tasks, but can’t seem to get yourself to focus.

Distracted, you think about scrolling some more “until you’re ready to focus.”

Suddenly, it’s 8pm and you’ve spend another whole day doing absolutely nothing, knowing full well you’re going to start this same cycle all over again tomorrow.

Rinse and repeat.

So how do you stop the cycle? Radical self-love.

Feeling like you’re “stuck,” or not good enough, or are somehow inherently flawed/lazy/too oversensitive to be a responsible adult, are all telltale signs that shame is standing in your way of being able to truly love yourself and put yourself first.

In my program, we’ll dive deep into where shame comes from, how it hides the most interesting parts of you, and how to befriend your inner critic and learn to work with it, using radical self-love as your main tool.

Radical self-love goes beyond things like confidence, self-esteem, and self-acceptance. Self-love allows you to be kind and compassionate toward yourself even when you aren’t confident, or when you don’t believe you’re the greatest human.

Radical self-love helps you feel comfortable and sure about who you are. When you love yourself this way, you don’t need other people’s approval and can trust your own beliefs and feelings to lead the way.

Simply put, radical self-love is more than just being okay with who you are; it’s about fully embracing and celebrating every aspect of yourself, giving you the strength and courage to live a happier life.

But it doesn’t stop there.

When you start practicing radical self-love, it’s tendrils will naturally continue to grow into other areas of your life, reaching your friends, your partner(s), your family, your job, essentially transforming your existence from a small, dark, shame-filled one to one full of abundant love, compassion, joy, and possibility.

That drill sergeant that lives in your head and is always criticizing everything you’re doing, whether it’s first thing in the morning or at the end of the day during the “daily evaluation”? He’s still a hard ass, but you learn how to make him laugh and get him to step aside.

When you befriend your inner critic, you quickly find the intelligence behind your protective skills and instincts. You learn what parts of yourself have been hiding, and can start embracing who you are underneath the mask.

You can allow your inner critic to retire, and give it the vacation it deserves for working so tirelessly to keep you safe all this time. And you can learn new, more comfortable, more sustainable ways to navigate stress and manage day-to-day life that don’t involve locking your truest self in a box.

Pretty cool, right? So… how do you get started?

After 1 week, you’ll know how to stop the doom spiral in its tracks and ground yourself within 60 seconds so you can respond more calmly.

After the 1st month, you’ll feel empowered to voice your needs without judgement, or feeling the need to provide a list of reasons why.

After 2 months, you’ll let go of the guilt and heaviness that you feel when you allow yourself to have fun and be confident in your ability to take care of yourself, no matter what.

You’ll walk away with a feeling of true inner belonging and purpose, and know how to radically trust yourself to get through anything.

You will no longer be dealing with shame and internalized ableism that says you aren’t worthy, or are inherently broken.

And as a result, you will be able to make decisions from a place of genuine self-understanding and authentic connection rather than desperation or obligation.

When you’re trying to rest and you hear your inner critic start to yell about how many things you have to do, or how lazy you are, you can calmly thank him and remind him that you’re not worrying about those things at this moment.

Your rest will actually become restful, and you’ll have the energy you need to get the things that need doing, done, because you’re not spending it all on beating yourself up.

You’ll be able to find a balance between prioritizing fun, while also being a responsible adult, without feeling like you’re constantly being pulled in two different directions.

You’ll understand how to accommodate and work with your beautiful, chaotic, innovative, multi-passionate auDHD brain and build a life that works for you.

And last but certainly not least, you’ll know that stress and bad times will happen, but you’ll allow yourself to feel through it, and have the coping skills you need to make an effective use of your energy during that time, because either way the time will pass.

You can either try and resist it, or you can embrace it.

This program is flexible and can be catered to your individual goals and needs. Here is a general framework for what you can expect during our time together:

First, we focus on your relationship with yourself.

This includes learning how to be nice to yourself, practicing self-compassion, working through shame and internalized ableism, and touching on mindfulness—tailored to suit auDHD brains.

We also delve into getting to know yourself better. This involves understanding your values, feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, and how they all interact with each other.

We’ll explore your typical patterns and cycles and how they show up in your life today. This can include trauma cycles and your natural energy cycles and flow.

We also talk about showing up for yourself with things like self-advocacy, setting your own boundaries, and essentially learning to be your own best friend.

Then, we move on to your relationship with others, like friends, family, romantic partners, or even your job. The second month is more self-directed, and depending on what you learn in the first month, we will work together to see which specific areas or relationships you may want to focus on.